Growing up I remember thinking that if you were home-schooled – you automatically got a “your a social-nerd” stamped to your forehead, and that all home-schoolers were odd – not typical and just down right strange.
After all, that is what people impressed upon me when I was a kid.
That being in public school was “Good for me” – because it “got me out among my peers” – and “helped build my social skills, among other things.”
It really gets under my skin when I hear this – and I am just amazed that people really think that -peer to peer interaction- in gradeschool is really “good for them.”
and heres what stemmed this post today.
As I took my two older boys to the dollar-tree for Caleb to send some money he got for loosing another tooth – we were getting out of the car. As Taite unbuckled himself and Caleb was stepping out, I was waiting on the side walk and about 15 feet in front of me were 3 young children – they looked to be about 7 or 8. As I waited a car alarm began to go off and one of the little boys said clear as day with no care for those listening – “Why don’t they turn that f***-ing alarm off.” and went back and forth between his friends – spouting off this word a few more times.
My immediate reaction was not to react to the kids – and correct them – after all, what good would that do? – but instead I stand in front of my childrens view of them and pray in my heart that they did not hear them.
Kids pay attention to what other kids are saying. If we were to go to the store – and a passing adult saying that word, my boys may not pick it up. However, to be within feet of children their same height – speaking this way – it will draw attention.
It just saddened my heart to hear these innocent young children talking in such a ugly way…
and as I went through the shop with my kids – I was just so thankful the Lord has given us the ability to protect our children from this.
This isnt just an isolated innocent… Have you ever looked on youtube and searched “cussing kid?” – the amount of videos that come up of young children cursing is so heart breaking… and whats worse – those video taping these children think its funny!
I wont post any of those videos on my blog – for the sake of protecting those who may read – however, I will link to a few.
So I am warning those ahead of time – if you do not want to hear these DO NOT CLICK THESE LINKS
– Young 5 year old boy being encouraged to curse, more than one word – and getting laughs from it.
– Two young sisters cursing at their dad – and then calling their mom “dumb like a stupid girl”
– A little boy being talked at with multiple curse words -Being egged on to hit them with a baseball bat. This kids probably Calebs age.
These are the types of social interactions we want our kids to have?
We dont want to SHELTER our kids, we want to protect them… we realize there will come a time when our children will learn about these words -and other sorts of things. However, at age 6… my son doesnt need to have kids teaching him every 4 letter word in the book… and I just considering that “normal socialization.”
I dont want to discourage those who do public school… – some times this is what has to be done – and that is fine. Pray protection over your children and teach them the ways of the Lord when you are with them. Public school, private or home school, it is ultimately our job to raise our children – not the school system.
A blog I read had an awesome write up about why they home school. If you’d like to read it – CLICK HERE.
I however wanted to post some scripture she had up – helping to express why they home school.
I echo it 100%
Ephesians 6:4 states: “Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.” Deut. 4:9 says “Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.” Proverbs 1:7 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge.” Deut. 6:5-7 says “Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”
The Mom talks about so many aspects of home schooling and touches on socialization, academics, opportunities, and so on.
I liked the scriptures she used when talking about the social aspects of things…
Proverbs 22: 24-25
“Do not make friends with the hot-tempered, do not associate with those who are easily angered; or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.”
1 Cor 15:33 Do not be mislead: “bad company corrupts good character.”
Some may never understand why we choose to home school… and thats fine…
… We answer to Christ – not the world… and we know what we are choosing to do and how we are choosing to teach our children – is exactly what the Lord wanted for them. If we are a believer – seek the Lord for guidance in what is best for your children’s schooling… If the thought of home schooling scares you – you aren’t alone…
Throughout all the pre-school years with Caleb, I questioned home schooling.. and really doubted my ability to do it.
The Lord has taught me so much and I am so glad he helped me to endure those years and gave me a Godly husband who desired to home school… because with his push and encouragement from other moms – we are so glad we are.
Disclosure: These are my thoughts on what I have personally witnessed and thought. You can agree to disagree… and that is ok. Please respect my family and our decision though and be mindful of any comments left.
— update: Theres been some good discussion below in the comments. To view the comments click the larger number next to the “post title.” Some of the things discussed have been “being a witness” – “being exposed even if you dont public school” – etc…